Most of us have been told, in one way or another, that the path to a better life runs through optimism. Look on the bright side. Focus on what you can control. Visualise the outcome you want. The self-help industry has built an empire on this premise.

Most of us have been told, in one way or another, that the path to a better life runs through optimism. Look on the bright side. Focus on what you can control. Visualise the outcome you want. The self-help industry has built an empire on this premise.

Most of us have been told, in one way or another, that the path to a better life runs through optimism. Look on the bright side. Focus on what you can control. Visualise the outcome you want. The self-help industry has built an empire on this premise.

There is a difference between being liked and being known. Most of us, if we're honest, have spent more time on the first than the second. spent an hour on Sunday unpicking why and what it actually costs us.